Always Go to the Wedding

Every local church should be a wonderful expression of the body of Christ, the family of God. The church, in fact, should be a family. When it functions like a family, it rejoices with those who rejoice and mourns with those who mourn. One “mournful” event is of course a funeral. One time one of my kids said they weren’t going to someone’s funeral because “I really didn’t know him.” I told them that was irrelevant, the conviction ought to be “Always go to the funeral.” (Read here for an excellent piece from NPR of all places! There are so many good reasons, personal and corporate, to go the funeral. But that is for another time.
The big joyful event in the life of the church is a wedding. As a church family, one, or two, of our own, are being joined together in marriage. Some may say, “Well, I don’t know so-and-so, so I am not going.” Let me urge you to have the conviction, “Always go to the wedding.”
This Saturday at 1PM Becky Grabow and Brad Goins are going to be married. Let me tell you why you should go.
1.    Becky Grabow was the first baby born at Grace Community Church. Her family has been quiet stalwarts at Grace since its inception. This is a big day for them. Share their joy. Brad is newer to Grace, but has been here for a few years, with mom, Sandy, and brother, Grant. Make them feel part of the family. Brad and Becky are outstanding, strong Christians. Saturday is a joyful day for them. You should go to the wedding so you can rejoice with those who rejoice.
2.    As this young Christian couple starts out their marriage, your presence at the wedding ceremony is an encouragement to them. You are taking on the role of a witness to their covenant with God and each other. The ministry of being present is often overlooked today. If I am not “performing” I don’t need to go is the frequent sentiment. But there is an encouraging ministry of just being present, being a witness.
3.    The ceremony itself is a celebration of God’s grace, God’s providence and Christ’s Gospel. The ceremony itself, especially the vows, remind us of the solemnity of marriage as a Divine institution, which can spur us on in pursuing our Christ-centered marriages. It also points us to the final Wedding Feast of the Lamb. There won’t be any funerals in heaven, but there will be wedding!
4.    Sometimes single people don’t like going to weddings because they want to be married but are not. Sometimes people with painful marriages avoid weddings because it stirs up all their disappointment with their own marriages. We really should not be governed by such self-absorbed principles, we should instead be putting others above ourselves in the humility of Christ.
There are other reasons for going, but I think these are good ones.  I hope, because of your love for the family of God, you have the conviction, “Always go to the funeral…. Always go to the wedding.” If you are providentially hindered, look for ways to express your congratulations and encouragement to them.
Glad I’m a part of the family of God,


What Are You Going to Read This New Year?

By: Brian Borgman

New Years is a great time to reset your resolve and set your sights on spiritual pursuits. We are commanded to grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ (2 Pet. 3:16). Reading is an important part of the growth process. Let me give you some unasked for advice about reading.

If you struggle with reading, start by reading Gene Veith’s booklet, Why God Gave Us a Book (available in the bookroom). God speaks to us through His Word. If we are not in His Word daily, then who are we really listening to? Our own hearts? (Scary!) The media? Our favorite pundit?

We need to hear from God. We hear from Him when the Word is taught and preached. We hear from Him when we read His Word, meditate on it and hide it in our hearts. Here is my annual plug for a reading plan. Why a reading plan? Because reading plans (1) keep us disciplined and (2) they help us to read the Word widely. If left to ourselves, to just read wherever “we feel led” we will be led to sporadic reading and that in a rather disconnected way. Choose a plan that is suitable for you. There are many to choose from and we provide some for you every year.

So our first and foremost priority needs to be reading God’s Word. We should be people of the book. But we should also be reading books that supplement our understanding and edify us. The Reformation got people reading. In the Puritan era, people became readers. Reading Christian books is a part of our wonderful heritage.

If you struggle finding time to read, be creative in redeeming the time to read. If we are proactive and accustomed to taking a book with us when we are out and about, we will find 10 minutes here and 20 minutes there. Also, keep a reading project strategically located in key locations. Keep a devotional book with your Bible so that you can get a few minutes every day.

But also choose books that will feed your soul. I am currently loving both Ichthus: Jesus Christ, God’s Son, Savior by Sinclair Ferguson and Derek Thomas and Knowing Christ by Mark Jones. Both titles are published by Banner of Truth. Both books are a delight because they focus on the Lord Jesus Christ. They are devotionally written. Of course, there are other reading projects that we should take up. If I were to create a “Christian’s Must Read” list, it would look something like this:

  • J.I. Packer, Knowing God
  • J.C. Ryle, Holiness
  • John Owen, Sin and Temptation
  • John Bunyan, Pilgrim’s Progress
  • Calvin’s Institutes
  • John Piper, Desiring God and The Pleasures of God
  • Jonathan Edwards, Religious Affections
  • Jerry Bridges, The Pursuit of Holiness and Trusting God
  • And an assortment of Christian biographies (I give a big bibliography in Feelings and Faith).

Be careful and don’t waste time reading books that won’t edify. Generally, avoid Christian books that are on best-sellers list. Generally, fluff and/or heresy. Spend your time on proven books and proven authors. If a certain author writes a new book, I will buy it out of principle, because of their track record (that list is pretty short for me: D.A. Carson, Tom Schreiner, Doug Moo, John Piper, J.I. Packer, Sinclair Ferguson, John Frame to name a few. I also keep my eyes out for reprints of classic works and new Greek grammars!).

So this new year, set your sights on some reading goals. Make them modest. Prioritize the Bible. Select a good book and stick with it. May 2016 be a year filled with hearing from God and learning more about Him and His ways.

Resentful and Angry

By: Brian Borgman

I am reading through the Old Testament in the Holman Christian Standard Bible. Sometimes a different translation provides a fresh reading of well-known passages. Such was the case today in reading about Ahab in 1 Kings 20-21. R.G. Lee described Ahab as that “vile human toad who squatted befoulingly on the throne of the nation.” In 1 Kings 20 God gives an amazing victory to Israel (and thus Ahab) over Ben-Hadad. One hundred thousand Arameans dead in one day.

Then Ahab, in an act of treason, treats the murderous Ben-Hadad as a brother (1 Kg 20:32-34). Ahab not only welcomes him but restores cities to him. God sends a prophet to rebuke Ahab (35-42). The word of the prophet is strong stuff, “your life in the place of his life, and your people in the place of his people” (42). Here is where the new translation comes in, “The king of Israel left for home resentful and angry.”

Resentful and angry.

It caught my attention.

The next scene with the “toad” on Israel’s throne is truly grievous. Ahab wants Naboth’s vineyard, but Naboth, staying true to his covenant principles of inheritance, refuses to give it to the king (1 Kings 20:1-3). Then again the text says, “So Ahab went to his palace resentful and angry” (4). The rest of the story is a tragedy, revealing that sometimes the righteous are not vindicated in this life.

The wicked Jezebel enters the scene. R.G. Lee said of Jezebel, “Most of that which is bad in all evil women found expression through this painted viper of Israel.” The “painted viper” assures the pouting “toad” that all will be well and Naboth’s vineyard will be his. She sets up Naboth, brings forth false charges and has him executed. The “toad” got the vineyard (7-16).

What we have is a narcissistic, resentful, angry, selfish man who treats Israel’s enemies as his friends and Israel’s friends as his enemies. His wickedness is only surpassed by the wickedness of his painted viperous wife, Jezebel. And yet God sends another word to him through the prophet Elijah. This word of judgment is strong and vivid. It is more detailed than the previous word which left Ahab “resentful and angry.” But then, truly out of the blue, Ahab repents (21:27).

Yahweh seems impressed as He relays Ahab’s repentance to Elijah. He also delays judgment in light of Ahab’s repentance (29). This really doesn’t seem fair. We think of wicked Ben-Hadad, we think of righteous Naboth and we seethe with anger towards that “resentful and angry” Ahab. Ahab, who resents the Word of the Lord, Ahab who is angry when he doesn’t get his own way, Ahab who tramples the righteous and exalts the wicked, seems to get off scot free.

On a related note, it is telling of our own understanding and spiritual condition when we find ourselves growing resentful and angry because God showed Ahab grace and not justice.

In the end, it does not seem that Ahab’s repentance is a lasting repentance. In the next chapter he again is resentful against the word of the Lord (1 Kings 21). In chapter 22, God’s judgment comes with a divinely appointed and sovereignly directed arrow. “Pay Day — Someday” is written in the constitution of God’s universe. The retributive providence of God is a reality as certainly as the laws of gravitation are a reality,” said R.G. Lee. No it does not pay to be a “resentful, angry” person. These are sins which are tough to root out of the heart, as Ahab proves.

Whatever Ahab’s ultimate destiny was, these passages in 1 Kings show the power of sin to blind and engulf the soul. They show the danger of being resentful to God’s Word and the danger of living life just wanting what we want and getting angry when we don’t get it. The only remedy for the “resentful and angry” is the cross of Jesus. He alone can cleanse us from the resentments that poison our hearts. He alone can uproot the anger which controls and corrupts us. He alone, by His grace and Spirit, can teach us “not to let the sun go down on our anger” (Eph. 4:27-27). By the grace of His forgiveness, we in turn can be freed from bitterness and resentment and anger (Eph. 4:31-32).

Ask God to open your eyes, the angry and resentful always think they are in the right (see Ahab’s reaction to the prophet Micaiah (1 Kings 22). Being an angry and resentful person is always a recipe for disaster. Ahab is the lasting monument to its blinding effects.